Life on life's terms

Posts tagged ‘Change’


Me and my blog

Ok, I was in a rut for a month or so. As far as my blog I neglected it. You see, I felt I was giving minimal posts compared to what I truly am capable of. Let me explain. I blog from my smart phone. So, my posts are not very meaty! Then someone said to me that my blog can be just short stories and such. So, unless I go to the local library I will be producing short but sweet posts.

Briefly why I don’t have a computer is because I left my husband of 25 years in June 2012. I was allowed my clothes. No pictures of my kids when they were babies or nothing. Since then I now own my brand new couch, recliner, flat screen, dishes, and bed. Oh, and I live in a house that is mine. I don’t own it I rent but it is mine! I started mind you with a garbage bag of clothes! So, maybe someday I will get a computer but it’s not a priority for now. But, my blog, my means of self expression is.

The other thing I feel I need to put out there in order for you all to understand me is I am a victim of molestation, abuse, mental and physical illnesses, and I am a recovered addict. I tell you all this not for pity just for you to be able to understand some of my posts. All the past trauma I have suffered at my own hands and the hands of others doesn’t make up who I am today.  THOSE ISSUES I HAVE DEALT WITH!

Now, me today, wow what a difference! I walk with my head up and a smile on my face. This process of finding myself has been a long one! I am not done by no means. I will never be done. I change every single day. I am going to evolve into the person I know now I am. And let me tell you she is someone you want to connect with in person and through my posts. I look toward to reading all your blogs too! If you chose to follow me I chose to follow you too!

Happy blogging!


Greetings again from Nettie

Hello all! I have missed blogging so terribly much! I moved into my first new home two weeks ago and I am loving my freedom………..

Living my new life on life’s terms YES, YES,YES I AM! My life has changed so rapidly I can’t think straight to write about. I can’t get online for a while so hang with me please. I will save the $ to get it asap!

In the meantime please give me a word or sentence or even a post on the meaning of change to you. Or, if your stuck in a non changing rut tell me why you are afraid of change. I am looking to get help me decipher the many ways to combat my delays in making certain changes as well as motivation to continue making more! Thanks and happy blogging! BE BACK REAL SOON!

Taking care of myself

I needed to have a goal added to this blogging and my living life on life’s terms. So, I added a new category and titled my first post Taking care of myself. I have been going through a lot. I realized that I have let myself totally go! Several factors played into this and they are facts like going through a separation after 25 years of marriage, my children growing up and making choices of their own, feeling not needed by them anymore, drama that comes with having to make ends meet financially and they don’t, wanting everyone in your entire family to get along at every moment, just plain worrying about everyone and everything else besides myself and my mental and physical health and well-being.

You see, I thought that in my 40’s I would be settled with my husband in 2 recliners watching TV or something silly like that. It’s funny I never saw me smiling in this visualization. But, I visualized contentment. Well, life and a higher power had other things in mind for me.

So, here I sit with a choice to make. Change now that the door is open and I can smell the sense of the many choices I can make on my very own. I have slowly let myself go and waited silently still not ready to dip my toe completely into the great lake of change. Oh, don’t get me wrong I made a couple of pretty major changes. I moved from the pacific coast all the way to southern USA! I became clean and sober. I got the wants! I didn’t know for what. I don’t think I still do exactly. But, I am learning to grown and reinvent yourself. While still living life on life’s terms and everything that comes along with that is a process. It has begun this process I feel the changes. Taking care of myself is my first topic of importance.  I will be resting for a bit because I need to. I have to stay away from social media and people and just be alone.

If you have some suggestions on stuff like meditation for dummies, or eating well on a budget of a poper, letting your grown children make stupid choices they will live to regret and shutting your mouth about it all, menopause oh boy menopause. Keep in mind I am going to become very informed on issues that will make myself better but I can’t understand what I read unless it is in laymen’s terms. I have a high school education that is very old now. I want to know what helped you. If you would like to share.

Bye bye for now just a day maybe two……

My nominee’s for best moment award


I would like to nominate the following people and their blogs for the best moment ever award. I have visited each of these blogs and I will also include the name of at least one post that I really liked! Here is a link to the person that nominated me for the award. It will give you the proper instructions should you choose to accept this nomination and participate. Congrats to all! And thank you for your awesome blogs and some with one of their posts I liked! Enjoy! I picked some ones that seemed that they needed to recall or have a best moment too!!/read/blog/id/23588243/

That concludes my nominations I hope you enjoy this as much as I have.  Happy blogging! And congrats on your nomination for best moment award. Your blogs all gave me thoughts to ponder on.



Best ever moment award/nomination/speech

First, let me thank for the nomination. Tammy, you inspire me almost daily as I go through my life changing events. I do truly thank you from the bottom of my heart. 

My best moment or time period

I am going to begin with the best moment or time period of my life. On my About page on my blog I said very little about myself. That is because my blog posts will introduce me and what makes me tick as I go on this life changing  journey that I am on. I am truly a work in progress! Stay tuned much more to come.

I have lived a very different life than most. The good things that have happened to me are few it seems. And, that is not me feeling sorry for myself that is just the facts. I am a survivor of child molestation, rape, spousal abuse, substance abuse, homelessness, poverty, to name a few. I choose to let my past be my past and my future be endless. Someone told me once the past is not what defines you. I fully try to live like that now. I am clean and sober. Managed to raise three sons who are productive members of society. I had a marriage that lasted 25 years.  July 24, 2012 I choose to change my life. I moved 2,500 miles away from my home town. I have begun fresh and new.

This brings me to the happiest moment or time period of my life. I have thought long and hard and for most mother’s the answer is when I had my children. That is the truth for me also. I gave birth to my kids clean and sober. Those were the very best moments ever. But, I would like to go out on a limb here and choose now, right here, right now. Please, do not think for a moment the birth of my children will top anything but this is up there pretty close to it. Today, I have the freedom of choice. Today, I experience something new since the kids are grown and the ex is gone. This year I went out to an ice cream all by myself! I was terrified! I choose what I wanted not what everyone else wanted me to get so they could have a bite of it. Today, I have been given back the freedom to choose how I live my life and the company I keep. I created a little guide in my mind of how to manage simple tasks alone. You see, I was a woman who worked and handed over her paycheck to her husband. I choose to have a budget today. Wow, do I have my days of menopausal hell! But, I choose to go to the Dr and take care of myself. My mental health issues are plenty but I choose to not-self medicate today. This moment in time for a woman like me is new and exciting and scary too! But, next to having my kids this new life is my moment my time to shine.

Now for my acceptance speech

Hello my fellow bloggers I am here today nominated for this prestigious award by a blogger that caught my attention and quickly gained my respect for her opinions on many matters. Thlayedbacklife  aka Tammy Green author of Thank you very much Tammy and I hope I have done you proud.  I would also like to thank for opening up the world of blogging to me.  Now, on to the people who have been by my side through all my trials and tribulations. They helped me to be able to have this new special moments in time. First, there is my mother Sharon Aldrich, thank you for never giving up on me. Second, I would like to thank the following authors and publishers who have taught me new ways to deal with life on life’s terms. Louise Hay publisher and author of many self-help books you can locate more about her at she is an awesome inspiration for women. Dr Wayne Dryer’s books are a great motivation. One of my favorites is Wishes fulfilled: mastering the art of manifesting. And last of the professionals that helped me along this journey is Deepak Copra I love his many affirmations and quotes but there is a blog that taught me a lot about dealing with many things especially stress. Here is a link to that blog Lastly, I have to thank my kids for sticking by me and believing in me even when I didn’t. Mason, Mark, and Matthew Harris.  I thank each and every one of you for visiting my blog and reading my speech. My your spiritual guide be with you as mine has me. Thank you to my spiritual connection who I choose to call God for letting me live in these very precious moments or change and choice, and ultimate freedom to be and do anything I choose!



Daily prompt/Morphing

My word is Fun! The word fun over the years has changed to much by definition of each generation. In my mother’s day fun to her was different from fun for me growing up and even now. I am sure the younger generation than I am define fun differently too!

For example fun for my mother born in 1948 as a teenager was sock-ops, malt shops, picture shows, cruising, chaperone dating, and things like that. Fun for me as a teenager born in 1969 were arcades, dances with music my mother wouldn’t dream of listening to, and going out with boys not going study, parties that involved mind altering substance experimenting. Things like that.

I know not only the different generations define fun socially as a whole in many ways.  But, the word fun is defined individually too! It is a word that changes with each person as well as each generation and it is a great word to watch over time!


My talents?

 I am a jack of all trades and a master of none! Lol! As the old saying goes. I asked my followers to give me some ideas besides the daily prompts on what to write about.  Someone said tell us your talents. Well, I thought about this and it is going to require some soul searching on my part. Seperation from my husband of 25 years and my boys growing up and leaving the nest have left me to my menopausal woes. So, my self-esteem and all around usual happy deminer has disappeared with these changes. I have begun some searching about who I really am and what I am good at.  I have came to no conclusions yet.  But, I will search for what I feel I am talented at this will be part of my finding out who I really am and what I really like to do! Possibly blogging will become a talent? I do seem to really like it! Thank you for your suggestions! More later on this subject!

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